Let me be real with you for a minute.
I'm a boy mom. I write books about biblical courtship. I create faith-based workbooks for women who want to do relationships God's way. And I still have moments usually at 2 AM when the house is finally quiet where I look up at the ceiling and ask God, "So... about that timing of Yours..."
If you're in the single season right now, I see you. I know the weight of watching friends get engaged while you're still waiting. I know the ache of a canceled "situationship" that you thought was finally the one. I know the temptation to scroll through dating apps just to feel *something* even when your spirit is whispering, Wait.
So let's talk about it. Not from a place of perfect theology, but from a place of honest struggle and even more honest hope.
Here are 5 tips for trusting God's timing in relationships, written by someone who has experienced it, drawn from friends who have been there too, and some who may still be walking through it right now.
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Tip #1: Stop Treating Singleness Like a Purgatory
I'm going to say this loudly for the people in the back: Your singleness is not a punishment.
So many of us treat waiting on God for a spouse like we're standing outside a locked door, tapping our watches, wondering when He'll finally let us in. But what if the waiting room is actually a classroom?
Here's what I've learned: The same God who is preparing your future spouse is also preparing you. And that preparation takes time. Would you really want to meet them a year ago, before God had done the work He's doing in you right now?
Shift your mindset. Singleness isn't the pause button on your life. It's the stage where God builds your foundation. Let Him work.
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Tip #2: Get Into the Word, Specifically, Daily
I know, I know. "Read your Bible" sounds like the Christianese answer for everything. But hear me out.
Devotionals for Christian singles are great, and I recommend them. But what you really need is a daily rhythm of opening Scripture and letting God speak into your waiting.
Why? Because when you're lonely, your feelings will lie to you. They'll tell you that God has forgotten you. That you're not good enough. That everyone else is moving forward while you're stuck.
But the Word says:
"The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him."— Lamentations 3:25
You can't fight loneliness with loneliness. You fight it with truth. So get into the Word. Let it be louder than your doubts.
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Tip #3: Find Purpose in Right Now, Not "Someday"
One of the biggest mistakes I made in my own single season was living like my life started after I got married.
I put dreams on hold. I held back from serving. I measured my worth by my relationship status.
Don't do that.
Finding purpose in your singleness is not a consolation prize. It's the actual point. Paul didn't say singleness was a burden he called it a gift (1 Corinthians 7). A gift! Because when you're single, you have bandwidth to serve, to grow, to travel, to build, to create, to pour out without the demands of a spouse and children.
Ask yourself: *What can I do right now that would be harder to do married?* Then go do that. Your purpose isn't waiting for a ring. It's waiting for you to step into it.
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Tip #4: Prepare for Marriage Even While You're Waiting
Here's a paradox for you: Preparing for a godly marriage doesn't start when you get engaged. It starts right now.
What does that look like?
- Emotionally: Are you healing from past hurts instead of carrying them into your next relationship?
- Spiritually: Is your prayer life strong enough to lead a home?
- Practically: Are you learning how to communicate, apologize, and forgive—even when it's hard?
- Physically: Are you setting boundaries now that will honor your future spouse?
I write spiritually faith-based workbooks specifically to help women walk through these exact questions. Because the work you do *before* you meet "the one" is the work that will save your marriage later.
Don't waste your waiting. Prepare in it.
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Tip #5: Remember That Faith and Patience Are a Package Deal
You can't have one without the other.
Faith and patience in the waiting season are like two wings on an airplane. Faith says, "God is good, and He has a plan." Patience says, *"I will trust that plan even when I can't see it yet."*
Without faith, patience is just bitter endurance. Without patience, faith is just wishful thinking.
Here's what I've learned through my own ups and downs, through the chaos of raising sons, the detour through finance, the late nights writing Christian romance author insights and faith-based love stories: God is never late. But He is almost never early by our standards.
He is building something. Trust the process.
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A Final Word of Encouragement
If you're reading this and tears are welling up because you're tired of waiting—I want you to know something.
You are not forgotten.
You are not behind.
You are not too much or not enough.
God sees you. He knows the desires of your heart, He put them there. And He is faithful.
So take a deep breath. Close the dating app for tonight. Open your Bible instead. And let this Christian singles encouragement wash over you:
The same God who parted the Red Sea, who raised Jesus from the dead, who wrote your name in the Lamb's Book of Life, that same God is writing your love story. And He doesn't write bad endings.
Keep waiting. Keep hoping. Keep becoming.
And when the timing finally comes, and it will you’ll look back, and say, "Oh. That's why."
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Want to Go Deeper?
If this blog spoke to your heart, I invite you to explore my books on biblical courtship and my clean Christian romance novels, where stories of faith and relationships come to life. I also write devotionals for Christian singles and spiritually faith-based workbooks designed to help you navigate the single season with purpose, peace, and preparation.
You can find it all in the Book Hub (revealdministry.com).
You're not waiting alone, and waiting with God is actually an active thing. He's in the background, working out your circumstances while you put Him first. When you actually do that, you become more in alignment with God's destiny for you.
Let's wait well, actively, faithfully, together.