If you've been following along with my writing—whether you've read my blog on Finding "The One" IRL or taken a moment to Meet the boy mom behind the books—you already know my heartbeat: faith, boundaries, and purity aren't just buzzwords. They're the foundation of everything I write, every workbook I create, and every conversation I want to have with you.
Now, let's go deeper.
Let's talk about biblical relationships & courtship what they actually look like when you stop following the world and start following the Word.
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What Biblical Courtship Is (And Isn't)
There's a lot of confusion out there. Is courtship just old-fashioned dating? Is it arranged marriage-lite? Do I need my pastor's permission to hold hands?
Let me clear that up.
Biblical courtship principles aren't about rules for the sake of rules. They're about protection, protecting your heart, your purity, your reputation, and ultimately, your future marriage. Courtship, at its core, is intentional Christian courtship with a clear goal: to determine if you should marry this person, not just to "see what happens."
Unlike casual dating, which often drifts aimlessly, courtship moves with purpose. It involves community, accountability, and a mutual commitment to honor God first—before your feelings, before your chemistry, and definitely before your timeline.
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Godly Relationship Advice for Singles
If you're single right now, I want you to hear something: your season of singleness is not a punishment. It's a preparation.
Too many believers treat being single like a waiting room they need to escape. But what if God is using this very moment to build something in you that can only be built when you're alone with Him?
Here's my godly relationship advice for singles:
1. Stop treating dating like a hobby. Every interaction with the opposite sex doesn't need to be a potential audition. Guard your heart. Be selective.
2. Get comfortable with your own company in Christ. If you can't sit quietly with God without checking your phone, you're not ready for a spouse.
3. Build your life now. Don't wait for "the one" to start serving, leading, or growing. Your future spouse doesn't complete you, Jesus does.
4. Surround yourself with wise community. The people who know you best should have permission to speak into who you date. Isolation is dangerous. Accountability is safety.
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Christ-Centered Relationships: The Non-Negotiable
Here's the truth: a Christ-centered relationship isn't one where you occasionally pray together or attend church on holidays. It's a relationship where Jesus is the foundation, the walls, and the roof.
That means:
- Your conversations go beyond "How was your day?" to "What is God teaching you?"
- Your conflicts are resolved with humility and Scripture, not manipulation or silence.
- Your physical boundaries are established before you're alone together, not in the heat of the moment.
- Your future plans include asking, "Is this what God wants?" not just "Is this what we want?"
Navigating relationships as a Christian means accepting that you will look weird to the world. You won't "play the field." You won't cohabitate to save money. You won't treat intimacy like a test drive. And that's okay—because you're not playing the world's game.
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Biblical Romance and Marriage Preparation
Let me say something that might surprise you: I love romance. I write faith-based love stories and clean Christian romance novels for a reason. I believe in butterflies. I believe in chemistry. I believe in the joy of falling in love.
But biblical romance and marriage preparation isn't about chasing feelings. It's about building something that lasts after the feelings fluctuate, because they will.
True biblical romance says: I love you too much to sin with you.
True marriage preparation says: Let's get counseled. Let's get vetted. Let's get prayed over. Let's do this the right way, not the fast way.
If you're not ready to prepare for marriage, financially, emotionally, spiritually, and practically, you're not ready to court. Period.
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Purpose-Driven Dating: Why "Why" Matters Most
Most people date because they're lonely, bored, or following the crowd. Purpose-driven dating flips that script.
In purpose-driven dating, you ask hard questions early:
- Why do you want to get married?
- What is your view of submission and leadership?
- How do you handle anger? Disappointment? Rejection?
- Are you willing to wait sexually until marriage? And what does that actually look like for you?
These aren't second-date questions in the world's system. But intentional Christian courtship demands them. You don't have months or years to waste on someone who isn't walking in the same direction.
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Following God's Design for Relationships
At the end of the day, following God's design for relationships comes down to one question: Do I trust God more than I trust my own feelings?
Because your feelings will lie to you. They'll tell you that "love" means overlooking red flags. That "passion" justifies crossing boundaries. That "happiness" is the ultimate goal.
But God's design is better. Safer. Holier.
His design says: Flee sexual immorality. Love your neighbor as yourself. Do not be unequally yoked. Let marriage be held in honor among all.
When you follow His design, you don't have to be anxious. You don't have to manipulate. You don't have to settle. You can rest—because the same God who wrote the story of redemption is writing your love story too.
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Ready to Go Deeper?
If this blog resonated with you, I've created tools to help you walk this out. I write spiritually faith-based workbooks designed for singles who are serious about biblical relationships & courtship. These workbooks will guide you through the hard questions, the practical boundaries, and the prayerful steps toward a Christ-centered relationship.
And for those who love a good story alongside the truth, dive into my Christian fiction romance books, where stories of faith and relationships come alive on the page.
You can find all of it in the Book Hub.
Let's do relationships God's way, not the world's way. Your future marriage will thank you.